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Creating the Life You Want Through Human Design with Kali Tougas

April 19, 2023 Jennifer Pilates Season 10 Episode 109
Empowered Within with Jennifer Pilates
Creating the Life You Want Through Human Design with Kali Tougas
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Kali Tougas is a life and business coach. She uses Human Design and the Dream Method to align your life and business. Kali works with clients that are ready to change the things that have been holding them back from being successful in their life and business. She uses Human Design to help them unlock and unleash who they are and what they need to do to find success and thrive in their life and business.

Kali's mission is to help others get out of their mold to create the life, business, or career they truly want.  

"If your life isn't in order, your business isn't in an order and if your business isn't in an order, your life's not in order. You have to have this good blend of both." - Kali Tougas


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Welcome to Empowered Within a Soul Quenching transformational podcast that will set your soul on fire through candid and inspiring conversations. Leading experts, celebrities, healers, and I share our journeys of how we've overcome challenges to living an empowered life from within. I'm your host, Jennifer Pilates. Welcome to another episode of Empowered Within. Hi there, and welcome to the show. Today's guest I'm so excited to have with us is Kaylee Tuus. Kaylee is a human design business coach who works with entrepreneurs and business owners that are ready to change the things, holding them back from being successful in their life and business. She uses human design to help them unlock and unleash who they are and what they need to find success and thrive in their lives and businesses. Welcome to the show. thank you so much for having me on here. I am so excited to dive in with you today and share my story and really talk a little human design. I always say I like to geek out a little bit. Yes, I totally wanna geek out on it. But first, I wanna geek out on your life and how your journey brought you to human design. Yeah, absolutely. So I actually, and this surprises a lot of people, I actually have a background in healthcare. I worked in e m s for man, how long? 18 years now. And part of that journey was I was in leadership. That was like the last big part of my career is I overseen two small ambulance services, and in the midst of Covid. it got to be a lot. and I hit burnout like a lot of people did, or have in the healthcare industry. And so, after working 80 plus hour weeks for Monson, and I know you're shaking that and that's what everybody does, and it's just like we did what we had to do. Right? Right. Like we did what we had to do. and I just hit a spot where my crews weren't getting the supplies they need. They were struggling so much and it just was weighing me on me so much. And then it started weighing on my health. And so I actually took a step back, went into a part-time position that was just kind of, I work from home. It was nonchalant. And in that year and a half that I did that I really was like, what am I gonna do with my life? Like, this is not for me. I need something more. And I'll never forget the day my husband sat me down and he's. you are not made to work for corporate, like you're not made to work for those types of organizations because you're a go-getter. You have these big dreams, you have these big things you want, and you're not gonna find them there. So it's time for you to start your own business. Went on, got my certification in coaching and life and business, and found human design. and in that process of finding human design, felt absolutely in love with it. And it made me feel like there was nothing wrong with me because I found out I'm a manifesting generator and what that meant and that I'm made to not be linear in life and all these other things. So got certified in that and then open my virtual doors and just hit the ground running and it's been an absolute blast. So. I love it. I love your story and there's always this beautifulness that comes out of these, painful moments and these painful journeys, and then they ultimately lead us to this most amazing, beautiful place where you've come to now. So tell us a little bit about human design. Let's dive into it. What can it do for me? Why do I need it? What's the deal? Yeah. So I explain it pretty simple. I break it down and just say, you know, we're all made up of atoms and molecules, and those atoms and molecules create energy and we're all energetic beings, and human design gives us the ability to understand how to energetically move through our day so that it's best suited, best fit for us. I love that. And I know that you, and I really believe in going with the. Like we, oh, absolutely. Like we've tried like I'm like you, I'm not, I've, my whole first half of my life was corporate world and that was fine for whom I was then, but yeah, it was pretty It's pretty clear that I don't belong in that arena, in that respect. I don't play with it well with others. I love it. I love how you Right. That's so awesome. Absolutely. And the more you learn to just go with your flow and not stress yourself out, the more you're lining with what's truly meant for you and the universe just brings everything in, which is so beautiful. What would you say is your favorite aspect of human design? So one of my favorite things when I am on a call with somebody and we're talking through their human design chart and all the aspects of it, is really when they have these aha moments, they have these moments of like, oh, there's nothing wrong with me. Or these moments of like, what do you mean? I'm supposed to be this way? And we start talking about it and find out there's like a ton of conditioning, which is something we call in human design of like society says we're supposed to be one way and we're really not made to be that way. Right, right. So it really then empowers them to step outside and be who they're truly authentically supposed to be. And to me that's the, like the best part with human design is watching people just step into their. Own who they are as an individual and then kind of let things fall into place for them. And that, you know, you keep talking about flow. I could already, in my head, I've never seen your chart. And so I can already, in my head I'm like, you probably have some right arrows and you probably have this gate. I'm like, because that's a ton of flow. Where there are some people that really do need the structure and that's okay too. Right? Right. Like you need this great combination. And really human design is about letting people be who they are as an individual and not trying to change them. And that's the other great thing I love about it is it's not some personality test that just throws you into a certain category. It really is about the individual and putting all of the pieces together to help them operate and function in both their life and business so that they have an amazing day every single day. So cool. So let's talk about how we do this. Tell me about how I would go about to get my human design chart to figure out who. Yeah, absolutely. So they can go to my website, you can Google it however you wanna do it. And you can run your chart for free. There's a lot of places that allow you to run your chart for free. The first thing I always tell people to go to is your energy type, because that really is going to tell you, how you in essence use your energy throughout the day. Would you like me to break those down? Yeah, that would be wonderful. Absolutely. So there's five different energy types. I always start with generator because that's the one that people most identify with and generators are made to, as they work, they create this like juicy energy. And for generators, it's really a yes or a no to them. Like there's knowing between and. It's really for them answering the yeses and saying no to the nos, which is really common for generators to say yes to everything and fill their day up, fill their or up with a bunch of nos, which then holds them back from being who they truly can be. And for them they, like I said, they create this juicy, yummy energy. So if you're ever in a room with a bunch of people and you get this like overwhelming sensation of like, I wanna run and I wanna go do this, I wanna go do that, you're probably in a room with a bunch of generators, Yes, yes. Manifestors are the next one I talk about. And there's only about 8% of our population that are manifestors and they're really like the trailblazers of society. So they get this urge, we call it, and they go after it and they, you know, they really blaze that trail on whatever it is that they're doing. And those that are supposed to be with them will be, and those that aren't supposed to be with them won't. So some will say their aura about them is they are very much people like them or they don't like them. I take the perspective of it too, is just because somebody doesn't like you that time doesn't mean two years from now your idea and stuff doesn't mean they're not gonna hop on and be a part of what you're doing, right? Right? Manifestos are super important because they're the ones that like create the momentum for us in our society to move directions. The next one is a manifesting generator. This is a hybrid generator that has some manifestor in it also, and they are made to be non-linear. And I mentioned this just a little bit ago about myself where it's not really made to go like, finish high school, go to college, get married, have the baby stay in a job for 30 years and then retire and do whatever, right? Like there's this like path that we're told by society we're supposed to follow and manifesting generators, really buck. So they may work in a job for a couple years and then switch jobs again. And I see you raise your hand. That's awesome. I love it. I love it. Right? Yeah. And so, yeah, right, like we're not made to like stay in this certain path. It's just not for us. We're also made to change our minds a ton and not finish things. And that's the coolest thing with manifesting generators. The other thing I always like to talk about is you overflow this a month's energy and people can feel you as soon as. Walk up to their door, pull in their driveway, they can feel that your energy is there. The other thing with manifesting generators is if you're saying yes to a lot of nos, you're gonna show up and you're not gonna have that juicy energy. You're gonna have the opposite, right? So you're gonna create this energy that just doesn't feel well to others, the next one I like to talk about is projectors. And I smile big on this cuz my son, when I found out my youngest was a projector, it was like this aha light bulb moment for me, and it absolutely changed our relationship in a good. And projectors are like the bird up in the tree watching the lions sneak up on the zebra and the projector goes down and guides the, the zebra, how to get away from the lion. So they're really made to like tweak things. They're really made to guide people, that type of thing. And with them, they really tap into the person they're with, so they really can see what that person needs for help. The biggest thing with projectors is they need to wait for the invitation. So energetically that invitation needs to be there or they need to hear, Hey, what do you think of this? Or what's your opinion? Again, I'll go back to my son for just a split second and say like, this was huge. We worked a ton on this this last summer and this school year, like things have evolved and are going so much smoother because he knows when to insert his opinion and when not to insert his opinion, and that's been huge. And then the last one is reflectors. Reflectors are 1% of our population and they really are made to reflect things back. And so I always like to use the example of if you have a child that's a reflector and you don't like what you're seeing, they're literally reflecting back how you are being as a person. Like what a like, right? Like your eyes just went, wow, what? Right? And it's the same thing when they're an adult. As long as they're not conditioned heavily, they will reflect back what they're seeing in their environment. So they really do need to be in a healthy environment to thrive and really do. Oh wow. How incredible. Yeah, and I know is it, will you always come up the same, right? Because you put in, in order to get your chart, you put in your name and your birthdate, if I remember correctly. Is that right? Yeah, it's your name, your birthdate, your birth time, and your birth location. One of the biggest questions I get is my birth location isn't showing up. The biggest thing to do is just find a larger city that is in the same time zone is a big thing. and that is completely okay. It has more to do with the time zone than the actual like pin dot location. I love when there's something concrete, you know what I mean? Like you can hold it and you can, and you can feel it and, and it's like it takes, you know, for those that love astrology and love to dig into their chart this way, this just goes into a whole nother level. Like I love how deep you can go and really assess what's going on in someone's life, both personally and professionally, because those patterns play out on both places. Throughout everything Absolutely. And you know what I like the lens that I take with it is everything on the chart can be used positively or negatively. So we have the opportunity when we know our human design, and I always use the SL as one of the centers. It's our fear center, it's our fear gates, and people can really get hung up on those, right? Like, oh, I have this fear. This is who I am. You have the ability to turn that to intuition and use it in a positive light. It's just a matter of understanding how to do that. So, that's the cool thing. How would you work with someone to do that, to help them in that area, in that. Yeah, absolutely. So let's say, they have the gate of the, the fear of past repeating itself, right? Like, this can be a very heavy gate. It can pe stop people from moving forward. They see some sort of pattern of the past, and then they wanna stop and not continue. And so really when I am in a session with them, and I, I coach them with this portion is like, let's talk about how you can see patterns and you have the ability to change the pattern and the outcome. Right? Like you have this. Superpower to go, oh wait, we did this before it went this way. The outcome was this. Okay, so if we change this, this, and this, now we're gonna have a better outcome. So they really have this ability to shift in, in essence, create momentum in a way that can actually make things better for us. Oh my gosh, that sounds amazing. So when you are coaching with someone, when they come to you and they say, okay, I've got my chart knock. You know, Kaylee, I don't, I don't know what this means. How does that look when you're working with someone? So we always start, I always break it down, start with their energy type. We talk through, I bet we spend 20 to 30 minutes in the first session just talking about that. Because if you don't understand truly how your energy type works, you're gonna have a hard time implementing other things. Because there's times when I've had clients come to me and they're like, well, what do I do about this situation? Right. and we go, okay, they're a generator. And then the next part is their authority. Like how they make their decisions are the two things that I fall back on when I help somebody make their decision. And when I say help, I'm not like going here, this is what your decision should be, right? It's like, okay, let's lean into your gut. I'm gonna ask you the two questions you tell me, which one lights your gut up? Like which one makes you just like so overly happy for joy, you just kinda wanna run in place? Or, which one makes you get this pit in your stomach and you just kind of wanna. Right? Because that's a yes or a no for them, right? And so that's how I use it to guide them. And then like through the session, depending on how much conversation back and forth we do, we will dive into like each center in human design holds different things. And it also, so we talked about the spleen center, I'll go back to that for a second. That holds our fears and our intuition that holds our immune system. So somebody who's open in this particular center, they're gonna feel when other people are getting. they're going to take like literally like if you and I were on a thing and I had an open immune system, like I would be like, oh, I got this scratchy throat. Get off with you. Two days later you're like, Hey, I got this scratchy throat now, like I'm sick. Oh, well there you go. I felt it coming on for you. Like literally they have that power, right? And so we'll break down the centers, and then typically that's about a first session, just because that's a lot of information to cover, right? Sure. Yeah. And then the next sessions we dive into different spots and there's, you talked about astrology. Astrology plays into human design. There's different gates that correlate with different planets that bring up different things for individuals. And so really, depending on why they. to me and what they wanna know really will guide me then too, on where I dive into different parts of their chart. Oh, how fascinating. What has been overall, since you've doven into your human design, what's been your biggest aha moment for yourself? Mm. Yeah. So for me, I would say it was that moment of finding out like I wasn't supposed to finish things and there was nothing wrong with me that was a big one. Cause I. I always would like start something, and then I would like the, the momentum would die off. And I'm like, what is wrong with me? Like, all these people can finish things, right? And then the whole non-linear, like I have never done anything in a certain pattern a certain way. And for me that was like huge. The other thing I would say that was even bigger for me was my relationship with my husband. for me, like learning his design and understanding how different we were when it came to communication really gave me the ability and him the ability to communicate in a way. That was so much easier and actually propelled our relationship and makes it now when we have those confrontations or those times when we just aren't on the same page, we can work through it in a way that works for both of us instead of me being like, why aren't you talking to me? what's wrong and him just clamming up and shutting down. Right there you could save 50% of the population of marriages out there. I mean, if nothing else, there's a whole niche for you right there, What is, when it comes down for you and working with people, do you have an aspect that lights you up? Like is it the entrepreneur, is it the females, it, the males, it, the relationships that come to you? What is, what's. Yeah. So, you know, I've really stepped into working with entrepreneurs, partially because it's really fun when they feel like they're stuck in something. So let's say they're stuck with, like, I'm struggling with communication. I had a client like this. We pulled our chart, hear her communication with storytelling, and I'm like to start telling stories and she's like, seriously? I'm like, yeah, just start telling stories. So she started doing that. She's like, I've never had so many people like DMing me. I've never had so many people like commenting and doing these different things. And so, you know, little things like that are so much fun with entrepreneurs. Honestly, I've had people come for life stuff too, relationship stuff, things like that. And I love it all. There isn't any aspect of human design yet where I've been like, that's not for me. I don't wanna deal with it. I don't wanna talk about it. Right. It's just so much fun. And really it's those aha. Those little aha moments that people have. And I heard something the other day that said the aha moment is really about opening up the space and clearing the energy for the new things to come in. I love that. Right? That is so special. So special, so powerful. Right? And that's, that's truly what happens. They have these aha moments, and the next day I'll get a message and it'll be like, oh my gosh, I'm stepping into my manifestor power. Or Oh my gosh, this makes so much sense now why I was having such a hard time making decisions. It's so individualized for every person. And so, yeah, honestly, it's, it's all of it. It's so much fun you can just see you like you're just lighting up these smiles, the cheeks. It's like someone just gave you a big hot fudge sundae. You're so happy, oh yeah. I love that. To be able to give people that ability to dig deeper, to actually get to know who they are, because people have gotten so disassociate. over the last 5, 10, 15 years with the way that society has been shifting so drastically, to being social, yet not social while being social. You know what I mean? Yeah. So, absolutely. This is so huge to dive into, really find that alignment, what works for you. And now you could really know why aren't you communicating with your spouse or your children or, you know, maybe why are you thinking, you know, you're staying in this dead end job and. To truly get to know yourself is the most empowering thing I feel anyone can do for themselves. Absolutely. And you know, it's, it's kind of one of those funny twofolds, right? Like, I'll have people that come to me to help with their business and we'll dive into stuff, but it almost always goes back to their life too. And I don't know about you. Yeah. But like for me, if your life isn't in order, your business isn't in an order. And if your business isn't in an order, your life's not in order. You have to have this good blend. And both have to be in a good spot. And so whether we're working on one or the other, they always end up both coming up. I completely agree with you. It's all, that's always what it's like when it, when I'm working with clients, it's like we start out and they'll be like, oh, I wanna talk about this. And then, 10 minutes later I'm like, oh yeah, but let's really look at what you're not saying over here. It's a beautiful parallel when you can attack. Both and just diving down that straight line. And again, people are like, well no, you have to, you know, go to a therapist and do this or go to this person and do that. And it's not that any of those aren't good, it's just sometimes maybe there might be something that you personally feel more aligned with and then you get that aha moment. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. And you know, for me too, there's this, this intuitiveness. That when I, and I prep before every call, before I get on with anybody for a session and there's intuitiveness and I get pulled on the chart, like really focus on this spot, right? And then I get on the call and we're talking and all of a sudden we're in that area of their chart. and it just makes sense, right? But in the moment, like as I'm prepping, I'm like, why are you, why am I so pulled towards this center? Or why am I so pulled towards this direction? And that's the cool thing too, that, that intuitiveness that I can bring into it. Again, those aha moments are even more then so special. Oh my gosh. I love that. So talk to me about, for you, for your prep pre and post client, what does that look like for. Yeah. So I spend anywhere from an hour, hour and a half in their chart before I get on a, especially the first session, right? Because there's so much in a. and to me, like I wanna make sure that I have every piece of it that I can, going into it. And post client too, like I always take time and ground myself afterwards, release what I'm holding onto for them. You know, I hold. Space. And I love how you're shaking your head because you're shaking your head cuz you totally get what I'm saying, right? like weed so much space for our clients when they come in and that is so true. And for me, I learned that early on in doing this is like I need time between in order to release what I'm holding for them in order to ground myself again in order to get back to that. cool, calm, collective, neutral spot inside my own body. And so for me, I take that time and do that because that's really important for me and it's my own business, so I can Right, right. Like that's part of having our own business is we get to determine how we run things. Absolutely. I completely agree with you. I know, I was listening to someone yesterday and she was like, well, I, this is my 13th podcast episode that I'm, that she was recording in one day and I, I just looked at her and I was, are you serious? You know, because exactly what you just said is how I am. Like tops. I will do too because I am so in the energy with you pre, during, and post, and I'm still salivating a couple hours later on our conversation. I don't wanna just rush into another conversation like I, I am, I so enjoy these moments. It's like, it's so much more pre-post and and with you. So I totally hear that. And it's the same thing for me with clients. You know, it's the same. Like I wanna be there and enjoy it and like you, every client is different. You never know what's coming at you that day. And that's so special too. Oh, totally. Yeah. Like I can tell before I even get on with them if something's going on. Right. Like especially those like clients you've had for a while. I mean, there's times I get on and I just look at'em like, okay, what's going on? Like I could feel something was wrong before we even got on here and they. Ugh, I can't hide anything from you, Yeah. It's just like you, you can't, right? Like, no. Yeah. So I'm in the same way. I space things because I need that for me, right? And that's what it's really, I wanna bring the best to my clients. I wanna bring the best when I go on a podcast, wherever I'm at. And for me to do that, I need that time in between to really do exactly what you said. Cleanse everything. Just release it and let it go. I agree. Yeah. We are getting to the time in the show where I ask you this one special question. Are you ready? Absolutely. Go for it. What is one thing that no one knows about Kaylee? That's a really good question. Nobody. Almost nobody. Yeah. So, When I was in my first year of college, I did judo and rock climbing. I know. I love the look you just gave me. Wow. Yep. I actually did a semester of judo cuz I needed another class. Fell in love with. and then, the group that did judo did rock climbing. And so I got into rock climbing and I actually spent a summer, like two weeks down in South Dakota in the Badlands rock climbing. I know how spectacular it was. It was absolutely, absolutely amazing. That was back in my. Twenties, early twenties. Yeah, 1920s, somewhere in there that I did that. Mm-hmm. How Just yesterday? Yeah, it was just yesterday. Just yesterday. I always have moments of like, I should get back into that, and then I'm like, what am I really thinking? I, that's so funny you said that because I've, where I'm looking at, transitioning to moving to I was looking at like different, like gyms and, and stuff like that. And this one had this rock climbing wall and I'm like, Ooh, that looks really fun. And I sat back and I'm like, you're never going to do that. You do realize like you're probably never gonna do that rock climbing wall but it does look like so much fun. Like, there's a piece of me that's like, oh, I really wanna try that. And the other piece of me is like, let's go do some Pilates. I love it. You, you, you gotta try it at least once. And I say that because the walls are tons of fun and they're just not as dangerous as real rock. Right. And so, and they have different levels. They have easy ones, they have harder ones. So you gotta at least try the wall if you're gonna go there. Yeah. Um, I still would do a wall in a heartbeat. I just don't think I would do real rock again. Uh, just because the having kids, right. Having a family, having those things, like the fear of something happening. Is there too with that or you know, if something did happen, that type of thing, versus when I was 19 and I. Nothing matters. Let's go Right. Let's get it on Oh yeah. I'll love it. I love it. Well, I will keep you posted if I jump on a wall. Absolutely. I I expect to see some photos. I'm just saying. Oh, they'll be pho. They'll, they're gonna need to be a video. I'm gonna need, I'm gonna need an outfit. Yeah. Yeah. It sounds like you need a video camera crew. Yes. That would be perfect. Right? Oh my God, it. Priceless. Absolutely priceless it. It was so worth it. Oh my God, I love it. Okay, that's it. I'll do a wall There you go. Oh my gosh. Kayleigh, will you please share with our audience where they can best connect with you? Yeah, absolutely. So igs the best place to find me Instagram Hop on there. go into my dms, say hi. I love to connect with my community. And I mean, literally just connect with you, hear about you, tell me your energy type, because again, I love geeking out human design. The other thing is, is, and I'll give you the the link, they can go ahead, run their free chart. They can also grab a u book at that time too. And a u yearbook is just a book about them. It breaks down their energy. how they make their decisions, and then also their profile, which we didn't touch on today, but it's about their personality and so that's available also. Yeah, that's the best place. Awesome. Id. Yay. Use my content. That's all. That's where she's at. That's where she's at. Absolutely. Well, all of Kayleigh's information will be over@jenniferpilates.com in the show notes, so you can hop over there. I'll put all the links and everything so that you can check her out and slide into her dms, As we are closing out the show, do you have one last bit of inspiration you'd like to leave with us? Sure, absolutely. You know, if you feel like you're stuck in your life, sometimes it just takes little things to change it. And one thing I always say, and some people are going to cringe, is when you get up in the morning, if you're finding frustration or something's not working right, go ahead, drink your coffee, then brush your teeth. If that changes something that simple, that will make life better. Beautiful. Absolutely love that. Thank you so much, Kaylee, for being here today. This was so much fun. I've learned so much. Can't wait to have you back on the show and we can dive into it deeper, maybe look at my energy and my profile and keep everyone updated as to if either one of us jump on a rock wall, Absolutely, absolutely. This has been so much fun. Thank you so much, Jennifer, for having me on here. Oh, you are so welcome. Thank you again, and as we say, until next time. Thank you so much for tuning into another episode. Please remember to rate, review, and subscribe to Empowered Within with Jennifer Pilates. Your feedback is important. It helps me to connect with you and gives me insight into who you are and what you're enjoying about the show. For today's show, notes and discount codes from today's sponsors, head over to Jennifer pil. Dot com. Until next time, may you live an empowered life from within.