BONUS!! Transforming Body, Mind and Spirit - Deep Levels of Spiritual Healing | Jennifer Pilates Appearance on Phoenix and Flame Podcast

BONUS!! Here is my appearance on Phoenix and Flame Podcast! Have you experienced trauma?  Do you feel it is holding your body, mind, or spirit hostage?  This episode may help! Host Dana Skaags and I get real on what it means to Transform Body, Mind and Spirit  - the deep levels of spiritual healing and the journey through to the other side.

Jennifer Pilates has been transforming her clients’ bodies, minds and spirits worldwide for over 20-years! She is a celebrity trainer and advisor, empowerment coach, mentor, and podcast host.

Jennifer is the host of the widely successful podcast, Empowered Within, where she shares her inspirational, empowering and transformational message. Jennifer's gift of intuition and healing has served everyday people, entrepreneurs, therapists, professional athletes, CEOs, celebrities, and others who seek understanding and who are looking to transform, empower, and live the life of their dreams.

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Welcome to empowered within a soul clenching transformational podcast that will set your soul on fire through candid and inspiring conversations. Leading experts, celebrities, healers, and I share our journeys of how we've overcome challenges to living an empowered life from within I'm your host, Jennifer Pilates. Welcome to another episode of empowered within. Hi there and welcome to today's bonus episode. I recently had the honor of being interviewed on the podcast, Phoenix and flame host Dana and I went deep into our life experiences of how we rose from the Phoenix flames. I hope you enjoy this interview as much as Dana and I enjoyed sharing our stories and experiences. Sit back, relax, and enjoy today's episode. welcome to Phoenix in flame, pushing through and transforming. Even when you feel like a pile of Ash, this podcast is not intended for use as psychotherapy. If you feel you are in crisis, please call 9 1 1 or contact your local crisis hotline. Welcome to Phoenix in flame. I'm Dana. And this is my podcast on pushing through and transforming. Even when you feel like a pile of Ash. I wanna say this morning, or actually it's not morning anymore. It's afternoon now. I just love. Being a podcaster. I just, I have fallen in love with this. You get to talk to so many wonderful people and I've been interviewing some super great guests. And I have a guest with us today. Her name is Jennifer Pilates, and you are just going to fall in love with her. Let me introduce a little bit about Jennifer's background. Now she is host of the top rated podcast empowered within now. She's been transforming clients' body, mind and spirits worldwide for over 20 years as a celebrity trainer and advisor empowerment, coach mentor and podcast host. Jennifer is a detail loving stubbornness. Heck achiever, unshakeable. Optimiz. Philanthropic self care, activists, fur, baby mama, and ocean loving, intuitive empath. That's awesome. She has a continued passion for the body, mind and spirit connection. Now I'm gonna take just a brief minute and say for those of you who have listened to several of my episodes, that I'm a huge fan of looking at the whole entire body that we're not. Just a body. We're not just a mind. We're not just emotions. We're not just the spirit we are all together. So that's just amazing. I can't wait to hear about. Jennifer's also a third generation Pilates instructor, and she had the honor of training directly under second generation Pilates instructors and founders of the internationally renowned the Pilates center of Boulder, Colorado. Now she has Pilates wellness studios throughout the United States in Massachusetts, Cape Cod and Boston, Colorado, and Arizona. Now she works within the Pilates method, but also she does Reiki, reflexology, Chinese acupressure, and energy healing. Now I'm gonna end my description of Jennifer with her quote that I absolutely love. She says, quote, my goal is to help clients discover their own truths, gain self empowerment. And in turn, transform their lives, body, mind, and spirit. Now, if that's not someone who's made for Phoenix and flame podcast, I don't know who is Jennifer. Welcome to Phoenix and flame Al thank you so much, Dana. It is such an honor to be here. You are doing an incredible job with your podcast, sharing the light and bringing everyone out of their ashes job. Well done. Thank you. Thank you. I've been talking to several people lately and knowing that myself and other people that I've talked with, that we come to the place where we are through some interesting twists and turns in our life. And I was just hoping that you could share a little bit of your twists and turns in your life with my audience that kind of brought you to where you are right now. Yeah, I would love to. Thank you. It is, life is such an incredible journey, we're really here. Earth school to learn so much. And I think we forget about that when we get caught up in the programming of what you should be doing versus just going with the flow. And so for me, I would say, there's a lot that transpired in my childhood that helped or guided me to have these amazing gifts as being an intuitive empath. And that doesn't always. Through fun experiences. So there's definitely some trauma there in childhood that usually results in a child becoming an empath. And through that when you're a child, you don't really know, you just know that, stuff, but you don't really know. So people don't pay you much attention. People don't pay much mind to you. I was really the child who everyone would say, oh, does she have an eating disorders? There's something wrong. My stomach was always in knot. Notoriously. I never wanted to go out with certain people in our family. I never really wanted to go out to dinners. I didn't, and in looking back now, I'm like, wow, what an incredibly smart child, because you knew X, Y, and Z, wasn't gonna be a great environment to be in. You knew certain people didn't have the best of intentions are the best of energy shall we say? So it's really interesting. And so as my life unfolded and things fast forward, it was in 1997. I was in a traumatic car accident out in Boulder, Colorado. And it was one of those situations where they say, geez, you never saw it coming. I saw it coming. Like I looked in the rear view mirror. I saw, I knew what was about to happen and there was no getting out of it. There was six lanes of traffic. There was, I was there. And so I ping ponged in between, back and forth with the cars and such had a lot of soft tissue damage from the base of my skull down into my spine. Neurological issues going on, there was so much more going on than I acknowledged or realized, or even shared with friends at that point in time. Like you, sometimes you ever get to that point where there's so much going on, you don't even know how to express it. And that was really happening to me during that time. And. I was climbing the corporate ladder and I was gonna be a gazillionaire. I was gonna have my house at this age, the 401k, the health insurance. Meanwhile, all my friends in their twenties were having a heyday of a time. I was like on this path. And the amazing blessing outta this car accident was that it completely showed me a different path. Through some hard lessons, right? Growth is great. Growth is generally not a really great thing. Who really enjoys it. I'd like to believe that I do after the fact. Yes. But during it, you're like really, I was in and outta doctor's offices for eight hours. It was months. My rehab was two years. I, just didn't understand brain injury, but started to, I was specializing in Alzheimer's disease. So it. I got it, but I didn't quite, I didn't take it serious. I wish I would've taken it a little bit more serious at the time. And so through this time is when I was introduced to Pilates and I was in so much pain and someone said, you should try this. I met an incredible instructor who her specialty was, Pilate's rehabilitative care. And I worked with her and her team of instructors for about two years. And at that point in time, my life on the back end was. Changing drastically. My company that I was working for was going public, the money, they were having money issues. I was only back to work barely. Part-time I think I was doing like three hours a week. If I, or excuse me, three hours a day or few days a week. If I remember correctly and I, no one wants that as an executive, right? No one wanted me there. They were like, we're done with her. And so all this started to happen. And I remember going at one point in time and I knew what was transpiring financially behind the scenes. And I said, we need to let people go and I'm gonna give, I'm gonna give myself, you can I'll take that. And so I was very young, right? Like I was very, it was such an adult decision, I say for such a young person in their middle twenties. One day I would go into work and the regional person was there and was like, Hey, you wanna go to lunch today? And I'm like, yeah, I'd love to here comes the HR person. And so if anybody knows this, You're leaving. And so we go to lunch and I'm like, I'm still not getting it. Like I'm not getting it. And then all of a sudden they're like we're gonna let you go. And I was like, what do you mean you're gonna let me go. Dana. It was hysterical, literally hysterical. It was like, I ha I didn't see it coming. Like I made this adult decision. Before I knew what I was doing. And it was, this was all divine, divine planning and divine intervention here. And so I was let go, I was laid off, I was taking care of a little bit, so that was quite nice. So now I'm really into full-time rehab in the Pilates, the settlement of settling. So I get a little bit of money and one of the instructors had said to me, you should go to school for this. Without a blink of an eye. It was the exact amount of money you needed to go to the pate center in Boulder, which is the Harvard of all applied schools. And I was like, yeah, I think that's a great idea. I'll do. So I started going to Pilate school. I did things I never did that. A lot of people don't know I was a wedding coordinator for an incredible restaurant in Boulder. It was such an incredibly beautiful time of my life because my specialty is business and marketing and branding and helping businesses. And so they really needed that help in that turnaround. So I went in into, and I was able to do that. I was working at a really great little Italian restaurant with friends. The Pilate school is very much like a physical therapy school. It's a year long. You really go intricate into the body. And so when you are done and you walk away, I felt such this blessing that I just wanted to turn around and give back. And I said, if I could just help one person not to be in pain, because what all of these women had done for me was amazing. And so now you fast forward all these years later, 20, some years later, I've you know, helped thousands of people around the world. An incredible blessing, both in studio virtually, and it's such a blessing. And then through the Pilates, the coaching was born, every session turns into almost a therapy session. My specialty is the rehabilitative care, so everything really was coming together. it just didn't always seem that way. You never see what's coming together in the middle of the mock you're like what is happening? And things really. That was a huge turning point at that time. And you think about Joseph Pilates who started this in the 18 hundreds? He always said he was 50 years ahead of his time. He truly was a healer in his own. And so through my Pilates practice, I would realize, clients would come in pain and they would leave without the pain. I would have their pain. So that's when I really began to understand more so of the metaphysical world than I ever did. Like I loved it to good terror rating. I loved a good, intuitive, I really started to dive in. I really started to do a little bit of research and I knew okay, I should be wearing ammo this on my left hand. That will help me not take on people's energies. However it wasn't until many years later that I actually found out what an empath was and that I was an empath and these incredible gifts and skills that I had, which let's be clear. Dana. If I had known this 15 fricking years ago, I could have saved myself so many different journeys and paths or I wanna at least shorten them a little right. Because again, you just, I always knew. Like I've always, and so it, it definitely helps when you're working with clients, because one, they, you can bullshit yourself, but you can't bullshit me. And so I'll see right through it, which is such an amazing blessing because I can help you get somewhere. Way quicker than if we were just gonna sit back and have this conversation for years on end over and over again about the same thing. That's upset. You let's get to the root of it. Let's get to the core of it. Let's rip it out. Let's be done with it. Let's empower you. Let's bring back that self confidence and that empowerment. because you are the ripple effect to the rest of your world, both personally and professionally. So people always say, are you're a business coach, you're a life coach. And I'm like, it's everything. It really always has been that way. And because you're transforming a business just as equally as you're transforming an individual. And so all of that, is very much married together when I'm working with clients. And so it's a really interesting Set of tools to have, I'll say, I used to say, geez, it's a blessing and a curse. And I finally no longer say that. I really just see all the blessings that I've been given and wow. It's not just me, like 50% of the population has this ability. They just either don't know it or choose not to tune into it. Yeah. Oh my gosh. So I told, I was telling Jennifer, before we started the podcast recording that I was gonna be writing notes down as she was talking. And as she would say, things that would strike something in me. Jennifer, I've got like about four or five. already just based on what you've already said okay. Wow. And there's some things in my head that I haven't even written down. So let me back up and emphasize a few things. So I don't think we really appreciate the learning that happens through pain. There's a quote that I ran across one time that says there is no teacher as effective as pain and it seems like we're trying to run away from it so much for all these reason. That it becomes like this avoidance thing. And I actually end up talking to my patients lots of times. It was just yesterday. As a matter of fact was having a conversation about sitting with discomfort. And not running from it, but knowing, just sit with it, it, the discomfort level will decrease, but then you're gonna be left with strength behind once you, if you don't run away from it and you sit with it and you let it teach you, you let it change. You. You let it empower you, then you're gonna grow. You're gonna be different. And so I think that's huge all by itself is taking that whole idea of the pain as a teacher and learning from that rather than feeling like it's something that we have to be avoided at all costs. Absolutely. No, it's so important to embrace and sit with it. And I always encourage clients and say, it doesn't feel good. It's not gonna feel great. I'm not gonna lie to you. It's probably gonna suck. However, if you can realize the fact that if you can sit with this and you can breathe through it, whatever it is, take that moment. Not a day, not a week, not a month, but take that moment and allow it to pass through you. You don't have to hold onto that. That's supposed emotions, feelings come through us. It's the ego. It's the mind that wraps it up and think oh no, we have to feel grief forever. We have to feel this pain forever. We have to have this feel forever. No, we do not. You can acknowledge it. Yes. It's not. It's not good. It's not great. It feels icky, whatever that is. And then. You have just as much right to release that because you are meant to embody happiness and joy and love and vibrate at a very high level. We are not meant to play down low and be, in low vibrations and not feeling good and being in fear. That's not why we're here at all. And once we recognize, and once people have that mind shift and go. So that whole theory of I'm supposed to feel pain when I'm working out to know that I'm doing better or I should be exhausted after a work week. That's really not. No, that's not true. It's completely not true. So there's a lot of deprogramming that I say that goes along with all of that. And some people are incredibly open to that and other people. Or very uncomfortable with that. And I think that's okay too. I like your attitude about it's. Okay. It's okay. Stop the judgment that it's just okay. And used a word earlier that I really like it's the acknowledgement because I run into people that they don't want. They're just like, they've got blinders on. They've got their fingers and their ears. They don't want to acknowledge. What they're going through, they don't want to acknowledge, what's trying to pass through. You can't do anything about something that you won't even acknowledge is there so that has to be one of those first steps is that acknowledgement. And then you can do all kinds of stuff. Absolutely. And you can release it because again, and what you're expressing is that when we have all life happening, and people say to us, we have to first switch the mindset to life happening for. And that takes time. That is not an overnight success. When we have all this stuff piled on us and people aren't breathing and they're eating it away or drinking it away or drugging it away or doing what you're that will come out and manifest as dis disease in your body. That will be a rash. That will be the flu. That will be cancer. That will be depression. That will be when we, again, it's always going back to that root cause. The why and I just had this discussion yesterday, with a family member and it was, I said, okay, look, I see what's going on, but I wanna know the why. And I wanna know the where. And so you'll, you're gonna love this Dana. So when we were looking at this, it was a lot of skin stuff going on. And so I said, okay, if we look at the root cause emotionally to every area of the body that this is affecting, this all has to do with fear of moving forward. Fear. Of not feeling safe, fear of not having sense of security. And I was like, so fear is the like we have to address fear, false evidence appearing. and the other thing that I learned this year that I love a friend of mine said this to me is I was, very anxiously getting on the, on a plane for the first time in five years and all this stuff and I was very anxious. I am human. I know anxiety and stress very well. I'd like to say we're friends and the person looked at me and said, all fear is excitement without breath. And I was like, wow. Wow. How amazing is that statement? Because it's really true. If you think about it behind everything that you fear, there's a bit of excitement. Oh my gosh, I fear that Ferris will because it's gonna go high and I'm afraid of Heights, but I'm so excited. I wanna go on it, but there's this fear that's overtaking it. And so once again, it's that mindset shift. And when you are willing to connect the body, mind and spirit. Miracles happen, life changes and you realize, and you experience the joy and love, like you've never had in life. That just description that you gave about the breathing. That just to kinda exhale. Let that out. What I'm thinking about when you're saying that is I deal with a lot of people who have trauma stuck in their body. And one of the ways that we go and deal with that, and there's a lot of different protocols for that. I'm not gonna go into all of that, but it's teaching them to go back. With breathing because when we get stuck in fight or flight, and when we get triggered, that's what happens. Our mind flips us into fight or flight. We are holding our breath. We're like stuck, but if you can continue to breathe like that woman on the plane said, just breathe. Then you can keep your heart rate and modulated and you can stay present with what's going on. You don't get flipped into fight or flight. You're. Freaked out. You can continue to think. You can continue to feel and process what's going on. And that's a big deal. And a and there's a ton of people, right? Especially after the last few years, they don't wanna feel anything, and I can remember back at my car accident when I was in with lots of therapists and massage therapists and cranial, sacro, you name the alternative holistic doctor. And I saw that and I remember quite vividly this one saying to me, you don't live in your body. I did not understand at that time, Dana, what that meant. And it took years and years. And every time when it pops back up every once in a while, which is like every, every, so many years, it has a new meaning to me. And I realized through exactly what you're saying, when there is trauma going on around us, when we are uncomfortable in a situation, we tend to numb out and check out. So I've always been much more comfortable. Outside of my body. I had to learn how to be comfortable in my body, again, marrying my bodyline and spirit. And once I did that, now you're healing your inner child. Now you're healing that trauma. Now you're like, oh, this feels great. I don't have to, no, you, you're not meant to feel pain. You're not meant to stay in grief. You're not meant to have to fight for everything in this life. You're not meant to. life is meant to be flowed through, and many years I was always swimming up river. Always. Boy, I'll tell you what it gets a lot better when you learn how to just go with that flow. Oh, my goodness. That is so true. And I've heard a lot of people say exactly what you were just talking about. Not really feeling comfortable in their own body because of trauma and learning to be comfortable in your own skin in your own body is a big deal because if they're not what happens, what I've noticed anyway is they don't. they don't wanna sit still. They don't they want to fill their mind up with something else either. They're, hyperkinetic, they're constantly moving, constantly doing they to other people. They look like Superman or superwoman. They've got so much going on all the time, but what they, other people don't know is that when they have to sit down in, in the silence, With their own thoughts and feelings, that's when they freak out, that's what they're ultimately hugely scared of. And like you mentioned earlier, sometimes people will actively seek out whether it's mind numbing through buying things, going online, buying things through sex, using sex, to, numb outta the feeling, getting involved with those physical sensations rather than your own body and what's going on in your own body. And you, of course the drugs, alcohol, Any kind of other drugs and that kind of stuff is a ways of avoidance, right? Yeah. It takes me back to, you really think about families back in the day, I'll say, right? Like how I should age myself a little here. And you always had the aunt or someone in your family who was just like you're saying at the holiday events nonstop, always cleaning, always cooking, never sitting down might have a sip of wine as they're running to go do something else to do something else because they can't sit. They're avoiding, they're avoid. They might be avoiding the situation. They're avoiding their emotions. They don't wanna answer questions they don't. And when you really can watch and be the observer to those around you, you can really begin to have a different mindset and more of a compassion sense for people then, oh, she's always just acting so busy and she never has time for me, or he never has time for me or let's go a little deeper and really look at. because there's always something and that's during a generational time where no one spoke, everything's under the carpet, everything's under the carpet. And then all of a sudden, the whole house is burning down, yeah. And so we've been through that and I think that. Again, after these last few years, I feel the blessing that's come out of this is let's talk, let's be open let's express feelings, let's try to get back to getting along. Cuz that would be really great if everyone could just speak their mind and okay. I love that. I appreciate your thoughts. Maybe that's not for me today. It doesn't have to turn into world war II. And so I think we're all navigating these different avenues and different ways of communication versus just being so like, oh, they don't agree with me. Well, I. Speaking to them or, cuz again, that's another trauma. There are so many trauma responses that people don't understand about, besides the traditional of what we've been brought up to believe. There's so much more. And so when we can just release and be okay and know that you're supposed to be okay, you're supposed to be happy, and if you're not happy, then how do we change? Is that your job is that where you're living? Is that what you're eating? Is that just how you feel about yourself? And so those are the moments that I really just ask clients to have grace with themselves because you're going through a transformational time and that is not an overnight. Success. It, I have not had one not like that, if you do, that's amazing. And I'm continuing, I think we're always on this journey. We're always evolving. We're always transforming. And whom you are today is not whom you're going to be tomorrow. So let's just deal in this present moment in time and work with what we haveely and have passion and grace for our. That's huge, having patience and grace for yourself and also the mindfulness, being in the moment. That's one of the reasons why I named my private practice new day psychological services, because you know what, I don't know what happened yesterday. And maybe you messed up again yesterday for the 50000th time, but you know what, today is. Today's a new day. New opportunities, new chances to make new decisions, to do something different than you've always done before. I wanna kind of wrap back around to, you had made a comment in the beginning about being empathic, being an empath and how children, lots of times, develops as a child and. It's been my experience and other people that I've run into lots of times when there's a somewhat of a traumatic experience that kids are trying to be hyper vigilant. be hyper aware. They're trying to really take the barometer of everybody around them. They're so aware of all the emotional ups and downs of everyone around them because of what they had to go through and they're trying to protect themselves. And so sometimes those of us. Who went through stuff like that. Then when you get to be older, you still have those skills. And so I think I've talked to some people that have them and they're like ass over elbows in being an they say, Dan, I can't, I don't wanna be around anybody because I'm so aware of all their their feelings. And lots of times then that's where boundaries comes into play. Understanding what's yours. What's not yours. You can be aware of it, but you're not responsible for it. But I'm wondering from your experience, what, what being an empath has done for you? Yo, it's done a lot. Dana it's done a lot, girlfriend, it's true. I have stumbled through it as you say ass over elbow. And when I didn't know what I was right. But there were, I was always giving little pieces of breadcrumbs here and there from the, wearing the amethyst to try to help absorb other people's energies versus me taking it on before I even realized. That was so that. Gosh, 15 years ago. I didn't understand that to me, soothing myself with Reiki music didn't understand how much I was feeling myself, but I, so it's so interesting when I look back how incredibly far advanced I was, and I had no idea what I was doing. I was so on the right path. And then, and I don't ever wanna say that we take wrong paths, sometimes I take a scenic group that was unnecessary and I've done that a few times. And so I agree with you. Yes. Like I definitely, as a child needed to navigate. Situations and family members, because you didn't know what you were going to get and were you getting an angry person? Were you getting an overly jovial person and how were you navigating that are, and you become the peacekeeper and you become the one that's trying, and you and I, and the family wonders why I had so many stomach issues, there was all of this that was going on. And so as life progressed and I was taking on other people's stuff, I didn't know it. I didn't know any of that. And so I think there was a period that and I find a lot of MPA go through interesting scenic road trips, we'll say, and I had, Hey days, much. Like most people do in their late twenties and thirties. And so that's right after the car accident. So all of that was heightened. My empathic abilities were all heightened. Again, not know. What they were, all of that was heightened. I definitely was in those years of drinking and having a good time, like every, kid does in their twenties and thirties and they go out every Friday, night and Saturday night when I look back now hell yeah, I was drinking. I didn't wanna feel anybody's energy. That was around me when I look at it, it's not that I was around, not great people, but I definitely, wasn't always in the highest of vibrations. We'll say so I completely get why, I look back and I'm like, wow. Wow. You went through a lot, girl. How did you get through all that? And you're still like, and I'm who I am now. That's pretty fricking amazing when I look back at all of it, cuz you know, everybody's got some of those darker moments and things that transpire and. as I've gone forth and learned, it has been a huge adjustment to learning boundaries and to understanding that, and I am not here to save the world. I am not here to heal every human being that is not my responsibility. That's God's responsibility. Now, if he chooses in a moment that's what I'm to do, then that's fine. I think it's important for people to remember that, yes, we have healing abilities, but I like to look at it. I'm not necessarily the healer, I'm the vessel for the healing because when I start and I've done this in the past, when I start to take on I'm your healer, I'm taking on a lot. And when you go back and go, no, wait, the energy comes through me and I'm the vessel to you. That's God, that's universe. That's divine. That's whomever you believe in. That's very different. Then I'm not taking all that. And so that, different things take a long time to understand setting healthy boundaries as an empath is so challenging and always evolving. We generally are, we've been people pleasers. We've been usually in alcoholic homes. We've been, there's a pretty standard sheet when you whip it out. As far as how empaths are born, there's usually divorce. There's, separation, there's all this abandonment issues kind of things. And it doesn't mean that we come from. Bad homes. I really wanna, I wanna say that it doesn't mean that it just means that we've been through events that our little bodies and minds felt traumatized in. And so there are triggers along and you will always be learning until you have released those triggers. So setting good boundaries. I'm not a big drinker anymore. Like I was in my twenties and thirties, Dana. I really don't like I have there's one wine company, dry farm wines. Everyone knows. I love them. It's no sugar, no sulfates. Ooh. Every once. Oh, it's phenomenal. It's like the healthiest wine they care about where they grow in the soil. It's phenomenal. Phenomenal. I actually have a box coming cuz it's my birthday in a week. So I'm so excited. I'll send you the link. So every once in a blue moon. Like I'll have, because that's, I cherish it and I savor it. And, I'm of that sense and understanding where the word spirits came from for alcohol, there's a lot of people that change when they drink. Yeah. And I do really believe now fast forwarding through my life that, yeah, when you are drinking and you are opening up so much, you aren't there at your gate, you're letting everything. and so people change. And so I'm very cautious of my gates. I know my limita, my little six or eight ounces of wine here or there. I really enjoy that. I don't not do things because I'm an M. but I do have my boundaries and I do work on those. I do self healings. I do watch myself and I catch myself like this morning. I was out every morning. I go out for a walk to clear because I work from home. So for me, going out on a walk in nature is very clearing. It's very healing. I'm visualizing doing my manifesting for the day. And that's my moment with the universe and God and messages are coming in and I'm, all that good stuff is going on. Today that was not the case. God had other plans. I had one neighbor that grabbed me who was melting down with their dog. I had another neighbor who grabbed me and she was like, oh my gosh, have you heard, all these crazy rent increases and she needed to be heard. And so I was hearing her and then, another neighbor came up and we started talking and then all of a sudden he's letting me know about. Horrific domestic abuse situation that just happened. And I was like, whoa, like I'm not even signed into work yet. God hold on. And so all this, and again, there's this piece in you that wants to save everyone and help everyone, but then, you take a step back. You go, no, I helped by giving the information that I could. I helped by listening. I helped by just being there and holding space for that person when they really needed. and then I moved forward. And so before this, I did a meditation. I laid, I was literally exhausted after all three of those people. I was like, I just need a minute. Like I'm, the day hasn't even begun God, and so I laid down and that was refreshing to me. So it's knowing and allowing and taking care of self. like I knew laying down, like for 10 minutes with my Reiki music and realigning myself, I'm clearing everything out and I'm back to me again. And so my sacred space is my sacred space. Do I like going around large groups of people? No, but the truth is I never have, it's not, fearing all the energy, like I used to. Absolutely. I've been there. I don't have those issues anymore when I go into grocery stores and things like that. And I used to, yes, but I do not anymore. I. I've never cared to be in busy, loud restaurants. I don't filter well, And so I get very agitated when there's lots of people talking, that's not in an, a healthy environment for me. And, I'm just sensitive to noises and things like that. So you find what works for you. Don't shelter yourself. I was new when I really like, when it really came out and I knew what was going on, it was almost like that was the curse. Oh, by the way, you're an empath. And now you realize all this stuff and you're like, ah, I don't wanna be around anyone. And you feel like you're raw and that anything that you see read touch is just gonna absorb into your body is the best way I can explain it. And that I have been there. It takes a minute to just go, no, that's not how it has to be. And I would say the number one thing, if I can say this to any empath that's out there and any human being that is listening that has been through any sort of trauma and upset, which let's be clear, Dana, every single one of us has been because we're here and we're on earth and we're human. Yep. When you heal self, you are not only healing yourself. You're healing, your family. You're healing generations. You are the ripple effect of people around you when you heal yourself. And when you begin to heal things, particularly as an empath, the healed empath does not take on as much. The more healing you do, the less you pick up around the world, what you are picking up and what is being mirrored to you are the triggers that you have picked up along your journey. And so the more you heal, the less you feel now with that being. I'll be very clear. I'm like one of the most sensitive AMPAS in the world. So if a solar flare is flying by, or I feel all of that in my body and in uncomfortable ways, very uncomfortable ways for me. I really have to discern my uncomfortableness from Earth's uncomfortableness. And when you can begin to discern those. Then you can find some sort of piece you're like, oh, I have all this. All of a sudden you'll get, I'll get these energies, these zoomies, like my kitty cats, like they'll zoom around and all of a sudden I'll be zooming and I'm vacuuming and I'm doing and all this stuff. And I realize I'm like, oh, I'm getting like a serious energy uplift, but it's not like a great one. You're just oh my it's energy that needs to come through your body. So you gotta, I always say move. To get it going, drink, hydrate, be in nature. Then there are other times where it's the exact opposite. Like I'm out. I have to go lay down. I'm going to sleep. There's just, there's no hope. There's just a, you just have to go with it. But when when I encourage people to go with it, when you it's, when you fight those energies that you are DISA aligning. So again, you always just wanna go with the flow and every day is new. It all makes sense. When I look back Dana, after the years and years, I would be getting, I would be flying all the time. I left to travel and I would get off a plane, no matter where I went, I would need two to three days to decompress, not be around. People not get in a car, not do anything. I thought it was just because of motion sickness, all this and that which, if I go from a car to a plane, to a train, that's a lot of motion for me. I do need a time out this past year. I've been now that we can all travel and stuff, I've been going much more in between Florida and Arizona. And it was so amazing to get on the plane. I for one sleep like a baby on a plane. I love sleeping, but to get me on the plane and in the seat and breathing has been a big deal in the, over the years. And so this couple of times when I went like I was, and then you could add a mask on top of it. You were, I was melting. I was melting Dana, but I was determined I was going to do this. And I realized. I wasn't really fearing the, I was just excited and I wanted to get where I was going. I was able to discern whose energy around me, on the plane I was picking up because all of a sudden there would be like this wave of anxiety. And I was like, that's not me when you can get to that path. And I promise them pass. If you work on yourself and you're due diligent, you can get there. If I can get there, anybody can get there because. Boy. I used to be able to, when I live full time in Arizona, I could tell you when an earthquake was happening in California, I could tell you. I used to be able to predict the weather like craziness. Now, luckily I'm not that in tune anymore for that, but I can tell you if a hurricane's coming where it's going or where it's not going, which is helpful, and that is the role of MPAs. I want people to know, like MPAs are not weak. Like we're pretty badass people. MPAs are here. To give the warning. We are the elephants of the wild, the El when all hell's breaking loose, an elephant is what is trampoline. The elephant comes through first and the horn goes and tells every animal go higher ground. That's what an empath is. We're the ones that sound the horns. We are the ones. So I think when impa begin to understand that they start to feel more empowered and go, oh, I knew weeks before the pandemic, what was going on? I knew weeks beforehand. I couldn't explain it. I couldn't tell you what was coming, but I knew something was so right. that kind of stuff. So it's learning to feel that empowerment and surrounding yourself with the right people who are willing to love you for who you are to understand you for who you are and who may sometimes think you're a little, a crazy but yet they listen to you. Those are the people that you want around you, I think it's wonderful that you've gone through so much and are acknowledging so much of your own experiences and you're essentially paying it forward. you're saying I'm gonna help someone else with what I've experienced and hopefully they won't have to go through as much as I've gone through. They can learn from what I've gone through as well. I was wondering, I was reading down some of these questions that you said that you're, ready and able to answer. It says, how does Pilates help decrease fear, anxiety, and emotional stress. Now being a psychotherapist that just really jumped out at me as being very interesting and really going right along with what you've been talking about already. So how does Pilates. Because I think your average, person's gonna think about Pilates, like those classes in the gyms. So how does Pilates decrease fear, anxiety, and emotional stress? It's incredible how it, how Pilates truly works with the body mind spirit. And so that's what it's all about. It's about connecting your body, the movement with the breath work and settling down into self, into spirit and being okay in your body. So as an example, going back to my car accident, when I was going through my rehab for Pilates, I can remember one of the first sessions I went in and I was on something called the reformer. It was a piece of equipment, which is a great place to start. If you have an injury, depending on where your injuries were. So that was best for me. And we were gonna do a very simple movement called footworks. Literally very simple. You're just pressing out and in it, it wasn't, shouldn't be a big deal. And as I was settling into my body, and feeling safe in my body and beginning the movement. Now you've got a flow of energy going and I'm working with the breath, the tears start coming out of my eyes. Oh. So there is such a release that your body wants to release your body. Doesn't wanna hold onto all this trauma and things. So when you are really in that moment and in Pilates, you're very present. That's when everything connects. And when you are using that, breathwork your heart rate is coming down. You're settling into your body and it's a beautiful thing. And when you are moving through these movements, now you're moving the energy through your body. You're moving trauma. You're Mo you're moving, whatever those feelings are, good, bad, ugly, and DEC, indecisive that's what's happening now, the way that, that I've just described that it may sound pretty slow. Pilates doesn't have to be for me when I'm working with clients, I customize every program for that person and what their needs are based on where they're at in life and what are our goals, right? And everyone's goals are very different. And some, we do a lot of just mat work where it's your body and the mat, because truly all you need is your own body's weight. And that is the essence of Pilates. And we always work from the core out. So even if you come with an ailment and say your knee hurts, and you're like, oh my knee. And I'm like, okay. And I'm looking at your gate and I'm watching everything. And then I'm still going to work with the traditional Pilates platform, which is working from your core outward. When we do that, we are realigning the other ailments that are transpiring in your body that you're not aware of because they're overcompensating for that. Oh, so that's why nine times outta 10 when you just address. So this goes back to something from the beginning of the podcast, when you just address where the pain is, that's all well and good, but that doesn't mean that's where the pain originated from. So we have to get to the core. Of the situation. And so Pilates always starts at the core and we work outward and we work on strengthening and lengthening the body versus constricting and bulking the body. We work on the innermost muscles. So you're outermost muscles are automatically getting worked. I like to call it two for the price of one, because let's be clear at the end of the day, who wants to work out. I know some people that love it, you're either loving it or you're like, eh, I could take it or leave it. And so for Pilates, I just love it because it doesn't feel like a workout, but afterwards I feel so good. I'm in my body. I'm present. I feel taller. My posture looks great. And there's an incredible guarantee that Joseph started, again, back in the 18 hundreds, which is after 10 sessions, you will feel a difference in your body. After 20 sessions, you'll begin to notice a differe. After 30 sessions, you will have a new body. And so what that means, and not only are you gonna have a new body, you have a new body, mind and spirit at that point in time after 30 sessions, that generally is two to three times a week. That's where you wanna be twice as great three times as you're the bomb.com. And that's really, that's losing inches. It may be losing pounds. It's really decreasing dis disease and pain and trauma in the body. And so I would tell any empath that's out there. Pilates is incredible for you because it really helps bring you to a place that you didn't even know you could get to. And sometimes people don't know where to start, where they wanna move forward and they wanna do something. So I say, try this marries everything together and takes you there in a safely place where you feel confident and empowered within yourself. And when you get there, those are the places when the magic happens. And, you really can't go wrong. It's a beautiful practice. It's a wonderful compliment to running, to cycling, to tennis, to golf, equestrian swimming, since I've been doing part-time in Florida and part-time in Arizona. I have been really adoring being in the pool here in Florida all the time. So I've started my pool latte's practice. So I've taken it. Oh my God. Not only from the equipment, from the map, but now in the pool. And I gotta tell you like nine times outta 10, especially, in the summertime, that's where I'm doing. My Pilates is in the pool and I love it. And it's, and as an empath loves water. Loves water needs to be in water. It's very clearing for you. With that being said, definitely shower in the morning and thank that water for releasing any negativity from your body, mind, and spirit that you might have had in dream world. Cuz you never know where you go and make sure at the end of the day that you have a shower and yes, hygiene is important, but this is really about releasing and washing off the energies from the day. And putting on clean clothes and taking those clothes. There's little practices that you can do that make a world of difference in a world where we have every gadget and every energetic thing coming at us. So when you can take the little tricks of the trade and use those, it definitely help. Oh, wow. That, gosh, you have given so much information that has been so helpful. I've just been sitting here just mesmerized by everything you've been saying and it's all actionable. It's all very useful. Cuz I'm one of those people that I'm like. Yeah. But okay. But what's the point you have been given point after point after point, very useful practical things that people can do and also explain the why of it. So I'm wonder. Where is there like a website or some place that you would like my listeners to go to when they wanna get more information about you and what you have to offer? Yeah, sure. They can head over to Jennifer pilates.com that has everything about me. That has the virtual plots training that has the coaching. It has the podcast, it has intuitive reading readings. If that's something that you're into all of that information, you can contact me if you are an empath and you are struggling on your path or you just, you have more questions. I would love to continue the conversation and I'm here to support. I'm here to spread love around the world and to help one person at a time to do better, be better and live better and feel empower. Jennifer. I'm so glad you're on the planet. And I was gonna say, I'm sorry that you had to go through what you did, I'm not sorry because you went through all of that for a reason, and it has made you the woman that you are today and you're reaching out and you're really, you have a heart for people and you're trying to use what's, you've gone through. To help other people and pay that forward and nobody can ask any more than that. You're just fulfilling everything, the self-actualizing that you're doing by this work and reaching out to my listeners on Phoenix in flame. I so appreciate that if you are listening today, and I know that you've heard some things today that have been so helpful and so amazing to you and possibly even if you have a friend. Or a family member or a coworker that you think, oh my gosh, I wish that they need to hear this. They need to hear this podcast episode. There's so much in there that they could do that would help them then tell them about it. Send'em a text, copy the link, send'em a text, send it an email. Put this on your social media platforms, whichever ones are your most favorite, share it out there. Let's grow our Phoenix in flame community. So we can reach out to one another and just help support one another with no judgment and just having a bunch of wonderful ideas of how we can just live better in this life. And we can pull ourself out of the ash that we can rise out of the Ash and just really become the people that we were meant to. So Jennifer, thank you so much for your time and your energy and your effort to come and be with us today. Those of you out there in Phoenix, in flame community. I hope you've had a wonderful day and enjoyed this podcast. And this is Dana on Phoenix in flame. Thank you so much for tuning into another episode, please remember to rate, review and subscribe to empowered within with Jennifer Pilates. Your feedback is important. 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